From Us

Dear Family and Friends:

Time flies and our twins are doing great so far, the past few months have been a very exciting journey for both of us, from the sonogram with a twin surprise on Dec 7th, 2009 to our now daily play time with both boys still under the skin, from understanding nothing about the overwhelming amount of decisions involved to having a good grasp of the many options, we feel confident to share our progress and knowledge accumulated over this short period of time with you!

We firmly believe the best insurance that we can give to our boys is a complete, healthy diet during pregnancy and a happy, peaceful mindset swaddling them throughout the 40 weeks. Dr. Gil Alvarado ND, and our friends Welkin, David & Johanna have mentored us greatly on this particular issue on everything we take in, including various options of water. Even though the investigation of vast information and controversies out there takes up a huge amount of time and efforts, we are happy that we went through and still are going through many of these learning processes, to ensure that we have the confidence backed up by unbiased research to say that we ARE doing the best we can.

Understanding the midwifery model and the techno-medical model sure is a struggle, we were shocked to hear our OB saying that “gravity has nothing to do birthing”, and that prompted us to start looking around for many other options including home birth. There’s just so much to learn about birth, it’s not merely taking some classes and going to the hospitals and getting the babies out. We believe birthing is a great example of connection of mind and body, and through our conversations with many new moms, it enhances our belief that any unnecessary medical interventions, such as use of Pitocin, epidural, fetal monitor, and even the words like “push” and “relax” can be potentially harmful to both mother and the baby, considering that medical intervention does have its value in rare occasions. However, the delicate balance of when and how these interventions should be employed  is often abused, which resulted many unnecessary fetal distress, forceps, vacuum extraction and C-sections, not to mention the risks involved with every single medication that’s out there and we highly doubt every one of us read or understand what they are.

We tend to think pregnancy and birth are beautiful experiences one can have in life, even the pain associated with it is beautiful, it is the one pain generates positive results for human (or other mammals). No pharmaceutical firm produces medication that can compete with the natural hormones the mother’s brain secrets; No medical staff can regulate the dose and timing of such secretion than a mother’s brain; No bed rest or monitoring system can ensure the pelvic bone move freely to give the mother the instinct of how to position herself and the urge to push during labor and delivery. And no beautiful L&D room can create the atmosphere that beats the loving, private, primitive feels at home for the mother to bring her child(ren) to this world. So before we make our final birth plan, which is still in the works, we would like to get your input on facts with your extensive research on many issues that require decision making.

What are the risks of carrying twins over 38 weeks? What causes stillbirth? What causes placenta abruptio? What is in the baby formula? Why we should tell the nurses not to use bottles on infants? What stalled the labor for many women during labor? Why does our OB want us to have a scheduled Cesarean? What causes the preterm labor? Do we need to have our boys circumsized?

These are a few of the questions we had and some we are still working on finding the answers for. 40 weeks is not enough to study all about pregnancy, but hopefully this blog will keep you updated and provide a sense of relief for many of your concerns.

In the end, we don’t just want the babies to be out, we want them to be truly healthy and have a truly natural and happy encountering with us when they are ready.

Love,
Cynthia and Michael

April 4th, 2010 (27 weeks, end of second trimester)

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One response to “From Us

  1. Michele

    Dear Cynthia, The birth of Dominic, our second child, was a beautiful experience. As usual, I try to stay at home as long as possible and did so in this case as I was already 10cm dilated when we arrived at the hospital. I almost delivered in the stairwell or hanging onto the taxi drivers neck. It was a scene out of a hollywood film. But, once I got to the hospital Dominic was only an hour or so from life on his own! I did not have any medications, not during labor nor in the recovery afterwards. (just ice packs!) I felt great and was able to introduce Dominic to Maxim just a few hours after he arrived into this world. It was a completely different experience than with Maxim though I did try to deliver Maxim without medical intervention. It was tiring, from the labor pains I experienced at home until he took his first breath, those 18 hours. He was a big baby at 8lbs and 5oz. I arrived at the hospital being 6cm dilated and immediately jumped into the jacuzzi to help me get to 8cm. But then a shift change set me back in my progress. I was actually losing centimeters and was almost ready to tell the birthing team to wrap up this session and we’ll come back tomorrow and finish up … but you can’t do that, you are there in that position to have that baby at that moment! No turning back or fast-forwarding! And, it was worth it to see my little baby held high in the air … and then to discover it was a boy!! I really wish I didn’t need the intervention but after 11 hours, I had an epidural which decreased the power of my natural contractions. Then, they gave me Oxytocin to help me have more contractions and that allowed me to have them but without the intensity of my natural contractions. Finally, after quite a tear, Maxim came into this world. He quickly took inventory of who was in the room and he acted as if he wasn’t at all in distress during those 18 hours. I was so happy to meet him, a curious, active little baby boy. And, I requested that the pediatrician come to him for the APGAR scores, etc., as I did not want to let him out of my sight.

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